Little gestures..

photo: janie lazar

The holy trinity of business has to be good service, great products and over delivery of just about everything. But quite how do we, should we, can we go about delivering on this? Well it’s pretty easy really.  Take the other day when I was in town, having stopped at the Dublin Barista School for a coffee. A few kind words, great coffee and out of the blue, a small biscuit appeared. Unprompted. Free. Most importantly, given with a smile.  How fabulous was that.  Yes, I am a cynic too.  I know it makes good business sense.  But thank you guys.  You made my day 🙂

Is Business Personal ?

I know we all prefer to do business with people we like, sure why not.  But when personal bias leads to decisions which are either unfair or illogical and make work for other people, often putting personal opinions before what is best for the business, this says more about the people making these decisions than those who are directly and indirectly affected. Time to ask some tough questions…  I was with a client the other day working on plans for 2017/18. Working in tourism, their business involves a huge amount of forward planning to operating different ‘camps’ throughout the year in Ireland and overseas. When it came to set-up for 2017, the owners said they wouldn’t allow one leader to come back, even though there was unanimous agreement by everyone who worked with that leader and feedback from participants that  a great job had been done .  What advice could I give?  None.  Absolutely none, except to let it go. Every business owner ultimately makes decisions based on what they feel, it’s called being human – but to their own needs. Sometimes these decisions don’t make sense,  often creating difficult situations, stress and more work for other people. But ‘he who owns, has the final say’. Let it go, let it go..

what’s your legacy?

I was wondering the other day that if I were no longer around, what difference would it make?  I pondered more on this and began to think about what difference I make to the lives of other people. Through my work. Through friendship. Through every day encounters….

Mmm.  sobering and exciting at the same time.

[quote align=”left” color=”#999999″]This little bit of pondering was like a kick up the backside.[/quote]

It’s made me appreciate what more I can do today, now and how the clock is ticking…. so Hello day. Hello week!  Let’s see what I have done by this time next year…..

 

Mindfulness – A passing Fad?

I recently wrote on Mindfuilness for the Irish Motor Neurone Disease Association and drew on my experience of living with Annette Evans and her husband Roland who has MND.  Against all odds I feel they embody all that is indeed Mindfulness. Click to read full article   Mindfulness… A Passing Fad

[quote align=”left” color=”#999999″]Mindfulness … ” A form of secular prayer” Roland Evans October 2014[/quote]

Check out Roland’s book,The Marshlander Chronicles –  ALL proceeds will go to the IMNDA, 

 

 

RUDE!

I’ve come to the conclusion that the only way to deal with rudeness is simply to utter the word rude.  My pal in London Maggie came up with this simple solution.  Sometimes there is absolutely no merit in dealing with an ignorant person.  Their rudeness and inability to be civil is their problem, not yours. Not mine. [quote align=”left” color=”#999999″]Rudeness is a reflection of someone else’s problems[/quote]

In saying RUDE either silently or under my breath quickly enables me to move on quickly and forget the unpleasantness, rather than fuming and continuing to fume, for hours, days, weeks.  Thank you Maggie for simplifying what can be over-laboured.  RUDE. That’s it.  done and dusted.

The Teeny Weeny Campaign

This week sees the launch of the ‘Teeny Weeny DAILY Practice’.  Making too many changes, each of which has the capacity to overwhelm just floors me.  So on another bright blue Dublin day, I have decided every day has to begin with a ‘Teeny Weeny’.  There will be just one thing. However small that needs to be done and I will do it first.  In the words of Brian Tracy.  I will …’eat that frog!

[quote align=”left” color=”#999999″]Take the Teeny Weeny Challenge[/quote]Feeling very chuffed. This is so do-able. This I can maintain.  This I will maintain.

Enjoy your day !

 

Harbouring hurt hijacks..

There’s plenty I don’t understand. Maybe because I am a slow learner.  I learn by doing.  I watch, I take notes (mental or otherwise) and have to put something into practice, then I remember.  Our minds filter out what we don’t need, or what we do not want to remember and may sometimes blind us to what is obvious, which brings me on to the hidden signs of communication.  Sometimes we can be so strong in our belief about something, that perhaps something has a great value to someone else, or an organisation.   The truth is, it may well do yet we get so caught up in what we believe is right, we can lose perspective and  find it hard to know when to pull out or let something go and there’s a tendency to hold on to a little, teeny weeny bit of a resentment if things don’t go the way we feel they should. [quote align=”left” color=”#999999″]Harbouring hurt hijacks our ability to move on[/quote]
Just because we think something has merit and is of value, the time may not be right. We might lose sight of the bigger pictur and then take umbrage, carrying hurt and resentment which distracts us from re-channelling useful energy to something else, where the effort will reap dividends.  So on this bright blue Dublin spring morning, my promise to myself is to find just one ‘teeny weeny’ to let go of. Enjoy your day!

 

 

 

NO NEED FOR DETOX

just as we all thought, eat less, eat well, move more, feel better.  Now I know as a result of my recent participation in a detox program which was assessed scientifically, there was next to no difference to my liver or kidney function.  The very use of the word Detox suggests that my body is somewhat toxic and I am not sure I like the implication of that either. The Medical Researcher’s view was making changes to one’s dietary lifestyls is all that’s needed.  Why then, is it so hard…. so very hard to remain focused and stick to a healthy eating plan and exercise routine… I’ll give it some serious thought over my next coffee, that is after my early morning (yes, that part is true) walk down Dun Laoghaire Pier. Enjoy your day!

DO DETOX PROGRAMS WORK?

Earlier this year shortly after my first visitor to the tiny cottage left, I took part in a Detox trial for The Consumer Show, on our national station RTE, here in Ireland.  As I don’t have a T.V., had forgotten all about it and the week of deprivation back in early February, I was taken by surprise when this week a few people mentioned seeing me on television talking about coffee. Now with more than a little trepidation as the program is to be broadcast tomorrow evening, I am wondering just how it will turn out.  How will the pre detox and post detox conversations with the Presenter Ella seem.  What about the little pieces I was asked to record each day of the detox, how will those be used and edited.  Sure, it’ll be grand as we say in Ireland.  But will it asks the little voice in my head?  My inner-most fears of being teased are fast rising to the surface.  Will I look as round as I am in real life on the telly or even more rotund? Will whatever it was that I said make sense… Yes, taking part  seemed like a good idea at the time. A bit of fun. Well, there’s no going back.  Tomorrow we’ll all see what the final tests revealed and how it went in every respect.

Seriously, the big question is, having done the detox along with others, each of us testing different types of programs, having had blood and urine tests done before and after the 7 day program, did my program and anybody elses work? Was there a significant difference, or any difference.  How did we all feel doing it and afterwards.  What impact does a mere 7 day program have on one’s life. After tomorrow’s broadcast, I’ll add to this post… for now, have a ponder on your views on Detox programs… and I’ll reflect on what I learnt

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think I’m Irish

With great pride I just watched an old video on Youtube of a Riverdance pe3rformance, of everyday people of all ages, all shapes and sizes dancing, tapping away, in the longest possible line, along the river quays in the city centre and across The Samuel Beckett Bridge in Dublin.  Even all these years on since Micheal Flately ‘burst on to the stage like a stallion’ as Rich from Donegal said at the time, I still get a shiver seeing how much pleasure almost any rendition of this dance gives me.  I love the fact wherever I am in the world, people welcome me when I say I’m from Dublin and I’m proud, very proud to be an Irish Citizen.  I love the way on St. Patrick’s Day parts of buildings are flooded with green light all over the world.  I love the way for a small country, Ireland packs a big punch. It’s not that I am denouncing my Welsh roots and my English upbringing, I am proud of these things too.  Ireland and my Irish friends and my little Irish Cottage, just a stone’s throw from the sea mean home to me.  I still love London with all my heart, it’s where it’s at for every nationality in the world and I’d  go as far as to say, it’s ‘the real capital’ of the world. London, my city which I love to visit.  But Dublin, dear old Dublin is home.  Though I love to travel and have been lucky enough to travel with my work to some amazing places; and though my sisters and their families are on opposite sides of the world and I’d love us all to be together far more, home and my family of friends keeps pulling me back. Dublin. Ireland. and though a ‘blow-in’ to some, I think I’m Irish from the outside in.  Hold on…. when’s my flight?!!!